Finding a way through the noise to focus on what matters to you.
Words to think on
Finding a way through the noise to focus on what matters to you.
As the calendar rolls over, I’m seeing the usual rush of recap posts. Most revolve around 2020 being awful and wanting it to go away; I’m down with that… but it may be oversimplifying. Plus, I’m in the mood to pick a fight, so here we go!
Look, I’m not going to deny some awful stuff has happened. The pandemic, with its horrible death toll (not to mention all the people who survived only to face long term medical issues). The economic trauma that ensued. The isolation of social distancing. The list goes on.
Here’s the thing, though – at this point everything is being assigned to COVID and that mean old 2020. For example, a wide range of celebrities passed away this year; it seemed like every time, the “2020 strikes again” comments would come. You can blame 2020 if you like, but Pro Tip: celebrities passed in 2019, and more will in 2021. Call me callous, but it’s true.
My spark came directly from a different type of post by a good friend. She’s a remarkable lady with a great attitude; she talked about being thankful for the things she learned and realized in 2020. As I read it, I realized that’s what had been bothering me about all these other stories, memes, etc.
When it comes down to it, bad shit happens all the time. 2020 certainly had a big share of it – I won’t argue that. What matters, though, is what we learned about ourselves and others. What we take away from all this mess. How we changed and grew.
This year, for example, I finally pulled the trigger and changed careers. To be clear, I love my former coworkers and clients. It was a great company and they took care of me – but it was past time. I wasn’t challenging myself and I wasn’t growing. I was too comfortable. “Comfort is the enemy of progress,” and I was a classic example.
That career change has me working from home, which has been an adjustment. Some days I get a little stir crazy, I’m not gonna lie. Still, the opportunity and flexibility are going to help me continue to grow while allowing me to spend time with The Boy, go to his games, be there for him as he navigates high school in a crazy global time.
I made major steps on my fitness journey; while my weight actually went up a couple pounds, my body shape is very different. I’m stronger and leaner than I’ve been since, well, ever, really. A lot of that took shape while the gyms were closed and I was doing virtual classes in the basement. Pro Tip #2: It doesn’t take a big fancy gym to change your life.
As event after event canceled, we were able to hold the 2nd Mileage Monsters 5k and I got to experience Savage Race for the first (two) times. That checked a couple new states off my list; there’s no official goal to race in all 50 but it’s a thought… Savage, I will be back for more, I promise that. Plans were made and scrapped and remade and adjusted and scrapped again – it’s a good thing I’m determined. (That sounds nicer than saying I’m stubborn as hell…)
This is really all I’m saying. It totally could have been worse! Our family was fortunate; that’s a fact. We both worked all year. All three of us are healthy. But I didn’t stop pushing. New challenges were met and beaten.
Look at it like running hills with a weight vest. When you drop the vest, you feel like you’re flying and crush that hill easily! 2020 was one hell of a weight vest, guys, but you made it up that hill. Drop the vest, leave the bad behind you and take what you’ve learned to move forward. Happy New Year!
There’s this guy I know; you may know him too. People look to him for advice all the time; they like him and like being around him. He doesn’t try too hard, he is just himself – at least on the outside. On the inside, he’s a ball of emotions some days. He looks like he’s calm and in control, because that’s what he wants you to see. The last thing he wants to share is how he really feels.
In a similar vein, there’s this lady I know; you may know her too. She’s smart, tough, and strong. But sometimes she makes herself less than she can be. She goes into a shell, gets quiet and doesn’t believe that she’s worthy. Some days she feels like she doesn’t deserve attention, or respect, or help.
That really bothers me, because she is amazing. She’s come far, changed so much about herself that she didn’t like – physically and mentally. Still, she holds herself back sometimes. You may know these two – hell the truth is you may be them, at least a little bit. Why do we do this to ourselves?
This is ingrained in us from a young age. “Don’t act like that.” “Be like everyone else.”
Really, though, if those people really care about and want to be around us, they should encourage us to be big and bold and loud and live fully – shouldn’t they?
I was checking in with one of my Favorite Humans last week – we’ll call them FH. (We all have an FH or two, I think.) The response was “Hi.” Just “Hi.” I knew right away something was wrong; usually, FH is open, talkative, and funny.
Why were they feeling, and therefore acting, small? It turned out to be well beyond my powers to fix. That didn’t matter though; FH appreciated my asking and listening. Talking it through led them to an action plan, and let them know they mattered.
I’ve been working on this – not just asking the question but really listening to the answer. We are quick to jump in with a supportive “oh, yeah, the other day I…” that brings the focus to ourselves. Yes, you can support your friend by sharing your experience – but trumping what they are saying doesn’t help.
The next time I spoke to FH, they were back to themselves. They just needed a reminder of how awesome they really are. So here’s your reminder, friends. Don’t be timid and accept what others give you. Live LOUD and make noise! Don’t just say “Hi.” Let them know you are here, dammit! You deserve all the space you want.
We bought a car three years ago; after our Murano delivered almost 180,000 miles with few mechanical issues, we were a bit spoiled. This new one has been… not great, Bob. (I don’t want to cast aspersions on a brand or model, but it rhymes with Beep Bumpus and I won’t buy another.) Our various electrical issues include randomly activating the emergency brake occasionally. Yeah, not great, Bob. The truly frustrating part is the inability to get the service people to do anything about it, or honestly just to not look at me like I’m a delusional idiot. (Ed. note: I’m pretty sure I’m not.)
With several more free/included oil changes and a warranty, I have been going to the dealer but I don’t know how much more I can take of that particular agony, since I don’t trust them one bit. I changed the dead main battery in August – 30 months and 40,000 miles and a bad battery already? OK, it happens, but… Took it in for an oil change the next week and I explained everything; they swore they checked it all out and nothing was draining the battery.
Monday morning I was driving to the gym and it stalled out on me – just died as I turned the corner to leave the neighborhood. Service engine light came on, as well as the electronic throttle control light. I got it restarted, and drove to the gym since nothing was open at 5:45 and the gym was closer than the house if I had to get it towed.
I showed service the video I shot; hours later I get a call – the auxiliary battery and main battery are both bad, they want to replace both. Now the only thing the aux does is keep the electrical on when the auto start/stop is active. Since that feature failed some time ago, I’m guessing the aux was bad well before service gave it the all clear in August. The main battery is four months old, and I sure as hell wasn’t paying them $300 to replace it.
So I swung by the auto parts store and they threw a tester on the main – checked out perfectly. Huh. What do you know… the new battery is fine, but the car continued to stall out all week. Guess I get to have a chat with the service manager – lucky me!
Alright, I know, you’re wondering what the point is. Hang with me here…
The world is chock full of “experts.” That’s really always been the case, but the internet opens up more information to more people, and gives them a bigger platform to spout it from. The good news is, as we all know, if it’s on the internet, it must be true!
With a wealth of “knowledge” available, and internet courage to back them up, there are plenty of folks who are willing to look at you like a delusional idiot and pass swift judgment on who you are, what you are doing wrong, and what you should do to fix it. Super helpful, no??
Here’s the thing, though: in the end, you need to be the person who sifts through “advice” and finds your own solutions. No one knows how your car, your soul, your body respond to circumstances better than you. The mechanic may blame the battery, but batteries don’t cause this sort of issue. Bob’s cousin’s housekeeper’s uncle may say that you just need this one weird trick to lose the weight – but that dude gets off the couch and he’s out of breath.
Don’t let all the noise get into your head space. I’m not saying don’t seek help – I’m saying accept that help with your eyes open. Commit yourself, but don’t blindly accept someone else’s word. If your coach won’t explain reasoning or just flat doesn’t make sense, you need to find a new expert.
A real coach will find out what works for you and tailor a solution to you, not force you into a prebuilt program. Square peg, round hole and all that. The time will come when you find that perfect coach, and the light will come on (NOT the check engine light). You will realize what you’ve been missing and wonder why you wasted so much time on people who were there for themselves, not for your best outcome.
The drive to be the best you can’t come from anyone else. Recognizing who you are and who you want to become has to flow from inside. You can (and should!) get help along that path – but don’t let what anyone else tells you put out the fire in your heart.
I’m not a recliner when I travel. At my height, leg room is at a premium, especially on planes. As a result, I don’t tend to tilt, and I hope karmically that the person in front of me will do the same. (Yes, I know, there’s a whole set of arguments on both sides. As far as I’m concerned, unless you’ve had your knees wedged immobile in the back of the next row when someone power drops their chair on you without even a backwards glance, your perspective and mine are never going to be the same.)
Recently I flew to Florida for a Savage race. 2020 being what it is, my flights were never more than 2/3 full. I took advantage of that to stretch my legs towards the center seat. Ah, some sweet relief! I know my knees appreciated the extra space.
Here’s the funny thing; I don’t check my seat when the plane starts its descent, because I don’t recline. This time, on two different flights, I got tapped on the shoulder and asked to put my chair all the way up. Apparently when I rotated to stretch legs, I bumped the button and reclined an inch or so. Certainly not the end of the world, but the rule exists for safety. As for the attendant (his mask named him as “Tiny”, which matched his roughly 6’4″, 275# frame nicely), he was just following his checklist and doing his job.
I have written about planning and goals on multiple occasions. It’s critical to look at where you’ve been and where you are going, resetting your plan as needed. That comes down to the nuts and bolts; details are important here. You don’t build to a longer distance or heavier dumbbells by just saying “I will do this” – the smart way is to do the work and build up to it, following your “checklist.”
Just like that seat back, it’s about safety. Run a half when you’ve never gone more than 3-4 miles and you’re likely to hurt yourself. Grab heavy weights and deadlift with bad form, you will wind up in pain. The truth, of course, is that you can get hurt even if you do everything right – but the odds are much greater when you skip the details. The controlled rollout is the right way to go, even though all you want is to rush to the end.
As I awaited the last leg of my return (hello, Nashville!), I thought about my path for 2021 and what I’d learned in 2020. I came into this year focused on building upper body, and my progress at the gym and on the Savage course tell me I’m headed in the right direction. My next big target, while still working on upper body, is grip strength.
It’s one thing when you grab the monkey bars or even a metal ring on the course. Grip matters there – but when you are faced with something like the twirly bird ropes, or hanging from a towel or nunchuk, that’s a whole different animal.
Don’t believe me? Give it a shot! Just take a towel, throw it over a tree branch, monkey bar, whatever you may have access to, then grab hold of both sides and lift yourself – do one pullup. This is what I’m talking about. So how do you prepare for that? You do the work.
I started training for 2021 this past week; ordered some new toys, found a training plan that I started but didn’t finish a year ago, and am preparing my steps going forward. I will talk with my trainer and we will make sure I have a solid start; details matter, after all.
Friends, as you wind down this year and build to your next set of goals, take a moment to make sure your seat backs and tray tables are in the upright position. Check your electronic devices (I may have done a training 10k this morning but only had enough watch battery for 2 miles… DOH!), and make sure you are ready to roll.
We know you have a lot of choices on how to travel through life; we hope you choose the one that excites you and scares the crap out of you at the same time. Challenge yourself today; pay attention to detail and start checking the items off your list. Find an accountability partner; if you need one and don’t have a good candidate, give me a call. I got you!
Can’t wait to see where you land – and remember, pictures or it didn’t happen!
Weekdays I do HIIT training at GotEm Fit; on the weekend I stretch my legs with some cardio. It’s a great time to do some thinking, clear my head, and get ready for whatever is coming next. This past weekend I had a lot of ground to cover, mental and physical. We hosted the 2nd annual Mileage Monsters 5k in Olathe on October 24, 2020 and (especially given the state of 2020) it was a big success!
Adding to that debrief, November 2 was the first day of my new career; this is a big jump for me. After 23 years in the print industry I am moving to training development and changing, well, everything. Instead of working for a 25-person small business, I am joining a multi-billion dollar corporation. No longer am I working in an office and hands-on with production every day; instead I will be working remotely with a team spread across the country. So, yeah, this will be a little different…
Several people have asked if I’m scared or nervous. Honestly, the answer is no. Here’s the thing: I loved my coworkers. I loved my clients (well, most of them…). J&J took a chance on me when they weren’t really in the best spot to do it – but they saw value in me. I think I delivered on that value, and it was a great five and a half years for both of us.
Cause he’s protected himself from the world
He never gave it a chance
And he says: Here in my security
I’ve put a limit on my self-potential
And my possibility– Jeffrey Gaines, Hero In Me (1991)
A few months before I joined J&J, I had started back to school to finish my degree. They were very supportive, and in fact I wrote my capstone project about J&J. It was during that time that I started to get healthy (down 95 pounds at one point before gaining muscle back) and again, they had my back. J&J was the title sponsor of the FIRST Mileage Monsters race, in fact.
After all those changes, though, I needed a new challenge; I needed to push myself in other ways. I was limiting myself. I excused it because they were flexible with me, they let me do other things – and that is true. I appreciate that and I’ll say it now – that may be the best job I’ve had.
And as I grow older
And there’s so much that I do not know
I’m drawn to those who are bolder
And go where no one dare to go– Hero In Me
We look for comfort; it’s a natural thing to want to feel a part of something, belong somewhere. Security, especially job security, is hard to take chances with. I’m no different, and there is nothing wrong with that – to a point. When we allow ourselves to be complacent, though, is when it goes too far. In 2017, my friend and partner challenged me (indirectly) and it led me to Spartan racing. Duuuuuuuuuuuuuuude. Talk about “drawn to those who are bolder”! I found a new home, a new tribe in OCR that I never dreamed of.
And I sleep
And I dream of the person I might have been
Then I’ll be free again
And I speak
Like someone who’s been to the highest peaks
And back again
And I swear
That my grass is greener than anyone’s
‘Til I believe again– Hero In Me
I spend a lot of time encouraging other people to take on new challenges, to push themselves. I stand by that – after all, nothing ventured, nothing gained. Still, I was holding on to a little security blanket of my own, and I needed to let go.
Then I wake
And the dream fades away and I face the day
And I realize
That there’s got to be some hero in me– Hero In Me
To be a hero is not always to ride in front of an army and urge them to fight. It’s not fighting supervillains. Sometimes getting out of bed and going to work when everything is going to shit around you is heroic. So yes, there is some hero in me, and pushing to be the best me in every aspect is one way to show it.
Guess what? Every time you make the choice to work harder, not to settle, not to appease a user? You’re proving that you, too, are a hero. I see you; let yourself see it too!
You have probably heard or seen the serenity prayer at some point. There is certainly a power behind the words, most frequently recognized as part of Alcoholics Anonymous and twelve-step programs. I can see the value – I expect there’s a sense of peace that can come with realizing you are powerless over something that is bigger than you; especially when you are struggling with an addiction.
It’s a tough one for me, though – at least without caveats. Maybe if you mean “the things I cannot change right now” I could get on board? You see, I spent years telling myself things were out of my control and blaming others for my failings. “I don’t have time to do this”, “I can’t do that.” The truth is, I could change all those things. I just couldn’t change them right then, in that moment – and not all at once.
I said this weekend that there is a perfect place for everyone at that moment. I was talking about fitness programs and gyms, but the message carries to any topic. I can accept that I can’t change everything in a day – but I know I can make a change over the long haul. Progress not perfection is our watchword at 1DOS. I’m living it myself, and seeing it in the Shiver. Every. Damn. Day. Patience is not easy (#stupidwhistling) but it’s necessary.
This weekend we hosted the 2nd Annual Mileage Monsters 5k. Last year on race day, I was a stressed-out mess. We had never done anything like that before; I did everything I could to be prepared but didn’t really know what to expect. The lack of control was tough for me – with a few weeks to go we were way under our attendance goal and I thought we were going to go broke. The details piled up. Hell, what if it rains???
So many of the things I was worried about, I truly couldn’t control. I am not, after all, in control of the weather. Can’t make people sign up, either! Suddenly, though, people were signing up and eventually we had almost 150 total runners – pretty darn good for a first time race. The event itself was well attended and people seemed to have a lot of fun. All in all, it was a big success!
Now, this may come as a shock to you, but 2020 has been a little different as years go. <GASP> It’s true!
After rescheduling and then converting our 1st race in Albany, NY to full virtual, we were stubbornly going ahead and making the Mileage Monsters happen. Again, signups were down, but surged at the end* so we cleared 110, with a good turnout on race day despite it being 33 degrees at run time.
*This always throws me – I’m a “sign up early and then I’m committed” kind of guy…
There were some bumps on race day, for sure, but I was never anywhere near as stressed as 2019. Is it because we’d been through it before? I’m sure that helped. I said on race day that I felt much less prepared, but much less stressed. If it’s not just a matter of experience, what has changed?
Well, to be blunt, I have. At the 2019 race, my partner Amy and I were supposed to say a few words. I froze completely. Didn’t take the mic, made her carry the load. This year, one of our bumps was the DJ – so I rented a PA, we put on a playlist and I ran the mic for most of the event – including the Foundation speech. Why could I do it this year? I’m not the same person I was a year ago. I’m more confident, more fit, and I have a plan to reach my goals. What are those goals? All in due time…
So maybe in my own context, I get the prayer after all. I am learning to control the things I can, and working to grow so I can control the others in the future. You can do the same, you know. Don’t settle for good enough. Keep working until you reach great – anything less only brings temporary serenity.
“I’m sorry” is one of the most powerful phrases we use. Accepting ownership of a problem and shouldering the blame is huge in a world full of passing the buck. While some may see apologizing as weakness, in reality it takes a lot of strength to stand up and own the situation when things go wrong.
There is a flip side to this, though – accepting blame for things that are not your fault, or you can’t control, doesn’t actually help you or the other person. In fact, it often makes things worse in the long run. When you own a failure that isn’t yours, you can set yourself up for more (unearned) blame down the road.
By accepting blame too freely, you become a target for manipulators. People pleasers, with a tendency to put others first and not stand up for themselves, often find themselves pushed into roles that can carry obesity and poor health with them.
Side note: there is a big difference between being sorry that your friend is having to deal with something, and owning that issue as your fault. Empathy is a good thing – martyrdom is not.
One party playing the martyr is a recipe for danger in any relationship, business or personal. By putting yourself into a victim position, then broadcasting that victimhood to show how giving and put upon you are, you hit a high bar of manipulation. Insisting on too much responsibility at work or at home, refusing to let others help – these things take a toll on you and everyone around you. That kind of passive aggressive guilt can crush someone’s spirit.
Often, martyrdom can be a marker for covert narcissism. What is that, you ask? (I did, anyway…):
This may sound like someone in your life; parts may even sound like you. Don’t freak out too much; the article goes on to state, “We all have a little bit of martyr in us.” I would agree with this; I have taken on too much at work and then been irritated when I didn’t get “my due” – the proper level of praise in my mind, a raise, whatever it may be. I think that’s a part of human nature.
There’s a difference between nice and people-pleaser; empathy and taking the blame for everything aren’t the same. By that same standard, you can want recognition and praise without being a martyr and a narcissist. In my mind, it’s when you put yourself over everything and everyone, with no care or recognition of the effect, that you cross the line.
You can take back control of your life by saying no. No to being the project dump at work. Nein to accepting the blame for other people. Nyet to doing things because you think someone else wants you to. Nej to giving the narcissist what they most want – praise or pity. Instead, focus on the parts of life that matter to you and your loved ones.
Putting yourself first is essential to protecting your health, both physical and mental. Only you (and hopefully your loved ones) can put the focus where it belongs. Make the time (yes, you make time for what matters to you) to do things for you, and do them ALL IN. No half measures – and no apologies either!
I’m a big fan of clever lyrics and poetry. The artists who deliver wordplay which makes me think and touches my soul, all while being clever and funny over an interesting musical track – whatever the style of music – are amazing. One of my favorites writes a lot about how he “should” be more famous, more successful – and the various reasons it hasn’t happened.
It’s hard enough not to crack under the pressure of average expectationsWax, “We Can’t All Be Heroes” 2013
Ah, yes, great expectations: what we put on ourselves, and what we allow others to impose on us. Before you remind me “you talk about big hairy goals all the time!”, yes, I do – and that’s different. Goals are targets, and involve a plan to reach them. If you say, “My goal is to run a marathon by age 40!” and have no plan of how to turn that into reality – it’s not a goal, it’s a wish. With a plan in place to build distance and stamina, register for events to prove out that development, and a specific target race to finish your process, it’s an attainable goal.
Expectations, though, have little or nothing to do with plans and process. The word is often used interchangeably with “goals” and as a catchphrase (“expect success”), but defines as “a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future”. Believing in yourself is important, but expecting unrealistic things – things you aren’t willing to work and sacrifice for – is a recipe for failure.
I expected to be a biochemist/geneticist when I was in high school. Then I got to college and screwed around, partied, and didn’t put in the work. Eventually I dropped out before they asked me to leave. That messed with my head for years; until then, I never had to work to be successful in school. Athletic failure I was familiar with. Academically, though, I expected to be able to do whatever I chose.
I think for some of us the dream’s too vivid
And the gift we’ve been given is the curse that comes with it
If you strive for perfection and progress
You beat your own ass in the processWax, “We Can’t All Be Heroes” 2013
We are usually our own toughest critics. Most of us will cut someone else any number of breaks, rationalize their struggles, and forgive their failings. But our own missteps? No chance, man. We will punish ourselves, forever in some instances, even if we “know” it’s not our fault.
This isn’t just about your own expectations, though. When you let others impose expectations, when you accept those as your own, you fight a battle that can’t be won. Why? Because their expectations of you aren’t based on you, but are a part of their own reality, their history, their life, their issues.
Stop judging me
I just want to live comfortably
And I ain’t talking about wealth
I’m talking about my brain
I’m talking about mental healthWax, “We Can’t All Be Heroes” 2013
When you are at the gym, your job, wherever – are you worried about what the person next to you thinks of what you are doing? Or are you focused on yourself and your goals? One of the biggest things I have realized is that generally people aren’t paying attention to me or anyone else.
That’s a bit of an ego hit, right? We are all the centerpiece of our own stories; that’s human nature. However, I am not the centerpiece of YOUR story. Accepting that goes a long way towards focusing on what I can control.
Stop judging me
I look around and suddenly
I realize that there’s nobody else
The only one judging me is myselfWax, “We Can’t All Be Heroes” 2013
So what’s the moral here? It’s down to this: you can choose to be controlled by expectations, ideas of “the perfect you” which can never be met. Alternately, you can accept that you are human, and work to achieve the things that matter to you. Live your life all in. If you come up short of your goal, you regroup, get a new plan, and go back to work. We can’t all be heroes – but we can give our best effort every day.
Like, there’s bad words in here and stuff:
Have you ever had the feeling that you are right where you are meant to be? That’s me the last couple weekends. After all the cancellations and postponements, I found myself climbing over walls and crawling through mud again. I knew I loved running OCR, but until now I didn’t realize just how much. Oh, I’m no elite (yet), but I love the rush, and have focused on race skills since changing gyms last November. Being able to measure that was just what I’ve been waiting for.
Extreme Timber Challenge (XTC) was a great reset to a mostly lost 2020 season. It was my first time at the local KC series – I should have done it sooner! A fun, fast run with a variety of obstacles – riding the zip and dragging tires made me feel right at home. If I have any regret, if would be that I didn’t take XTC as seriously as I could have. Basically I treated it like a warm-up for my trip this past weekend.
Let me say this: Savage Race put on a show Saturday in Maryland. Frequent small waves, reduced overall capacity, safety guidelines – they did a great job. This was my first Savage, and for sure not the last. The obstacles were tough but fun, and the course was the same. The people were what I’ve come to expect from OCR – helpful, friendly, giving a physical or verbal boost any time it was needed. After 8 Spartans, I was maybe a bit snobbish about some of the other races; Warrior Dash was a half step above an inflatable run, in my opinion. Rugged Maniac was a bit tougher, but still not on par.
In all fairness, I had never run Conquer the Gauntlet (postponed in July 2020), Tough Mudder or Savage. The big difference we noted as we worked our way around the Maryland countryside was the emphasis on grip and hanging obstacles. Spartan has more strength challenges (Atlas, sandbag carry, sled pulls) but there are really only 3 or 4 grip/hang tests, vs. twice as many Saturday.
Wheel World and others were fun, but Sawtooth and Colossus are the two signature obstacles, and they did not disappoint. I believe I would have beaten Sawtooth but to be honest, I got a little cocky as I blew through the incline and the “tooth” in the middle. I went to pull a 180 for the long reach up, but I didn’t finish the transfer first – splashdown!
Colossus is a ramp wall with a rope, then a steep 24-foot water slide. Sitting near the end of the course, the challenge is having grip left to convert it; I would have struggled a year ago. The past 10 months paid off, though, and I actually handled it pretty easily. Oh, and that water slide? The free fall off the top for an instant is a seriously fun rush!
I walked away from this weekend with a whole slew of firsts and reminders:
Most importantly, though – trust your catcher. They know best!
Nuke: That was great, huh?
Crash: Your fastball’s up, your curveball’s hanging. In the Show they would’ve ripped you.
Nuke: Can’t you even let me enjoy the moment?
Crash: The moment’s over.Bull Durham, 1988
The key to improvement is honest self-analysis. Last year’s realization I was lacking upper body and grip strength got me to a new gym and routine. That emphasis showed big time this weekend – and Saturday gave me markers going forward.
I had a blast on the course. Now, the moment is over. It’s time to get back to work. I can choose to stay where I was or I push myself farther – and I’m not done yet.
You can make the same choice in whatever you are doing. Tread water in the shallows or go out into the big waves? Keep the job you don’t like or challenge yourself? Whatever it is, don’t bask too long. The moment is over – now go create your next!